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How do you meet other single Christians?
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I’m 26F and have only dated two people. There’s no single men in my church, online dating seems awkward for me and I don’t know what to do. How do you meet other Christian singles??
Top Comment: Do the things you love and be open about your faith. Be active in connecting with your friends (even if they are married) and do what you can to be content where you are. Remember that God doesn't withhold good things from us when we ask. What you see as missed opportunities romantically He knows are dodged bullets.
Any good singles ministries in Houston, TX, USA?
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I have been trying to be more intentional as to ways to put myself out there! Any good tips would be helpful 😊
Top Comment: Idk about Houston, but if you are ever in California...
Place to Meet Single Christians (Not Church or Online) - Christian Dating - Victorious in Prayer
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Top Comment: I’ve been feeling a bit lost lately, trying to find someone special who shares my faith. Church and dating apps haven’t really worked out for me, and I’m wondering if there are other places I should be looking. Sometimes, I worry that I’m not putting myself out there enough or that ...
Is it a sin for a Christian women to remain single?
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Is it a sin for a Christian woman to not ever get married? I'm leaning more towards living a single life, marriage seems to complicated and painful and unhappy. I've seen so many Christians completely freak out when a woman does not want to get married.
I saw someone say though that it was actually Satan's plan for Christian women to not get married have children and to not WANT to have children and get married. Is that true? I kind of struggle with legalism so I didn't know what to think. I really hope that's not true.
I also kind of struggle with 1 Timothy 2:15 Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety. - 1 Timothy 2:15 (KJV)
What does this verse mean? I find it very confusing. It doesn't make sense to me that a Women's salvation is contingent upon giving birth, especially since it is nowhere mentioned in the Gospels. But the verse makes it sound like you have to have a baby to go to Heaven. I also saw someone say that this verse also means a woman who does not reject motherhood/ a woman who accepts and "knows" her role in life as being a mother.
I'm just kind of struggling with other people's opinions on the subject. I don't want to continue my life in sin. But I don't want kids, and marriage, for my life, seems like an awful thing.
A lot of people make it seem like God will be angry with me if I don't get married.
Top Comment: It’s not a sin. It’s honorable to stay single and devote your life to God in many regards. I recommend reading 1 Corinthians 7, it goes more into depth about why singleness is okay.
Where do Christian singles find their future significant other?
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other then Church(I attend a small church with very people around my age) and Dating apps(I have tried it and not worth it)! What are some things I can do to be more available or put myself in a good situation?
Top Comment: This may be awkward but hear me out... I suggest you let a few trusted Christian friends know that you're looking so that if they know people then they can introduce you. I know so many marriages that started off with introductions. Good luck xx
Every man under 30 at my Church is single, including me
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I have gone to three different Churches so far during my walk with Christ (one when I was visiting my sister in another state) and every man under 30 is Single. What is the cause of this? One is studying to become a doctor and the other is a biology scientist in a PHD program.
I saw that the divorce rate even among Christians is the same. What is causing this? I know God is the one that brings couples together but when I look around I see young Christian men that would have probably been marrying 20-30 years ago by now, before the advent of social media and dating apps.
Mind you, all these men, including me, have used Christian dating apps with no success. There are single Christian women in these Churches but nothing comes about. I am praying for myself and these men to find wives since they voice their frustrations with their situation.
Do you guys feel that the Church is failing to help young Christians find spouses? Also, what has your experience been like? Have you noticed the same in Churches? I would love to hear your input.
Thank you and God bless :)
Top Comment: Some observations I've noticed: Most churches have a relatively small pool of young adults to pick from. If there are only 5 single women and 5 single men, the odds of any of them being interested in each other and compatible are fairly low. Many single people I've met at church, especially men, are a little odd. They are nice, but they aren't super mature and established. They come across insecure and lacking confidence. Many single women I've met at church are very reserved and shy. They go out of their way to not lead men on, such that they come across cold and unfriendly, or very distant, with large walls. I've met so many women in secular spaces, some Christian women too, who are so friendly and willing to connect with me. There is no concern about giving the wrong impression. But at church, it's been so difficult just to have a conversation. It feels so awkward talking with single ladies at church, vs single ladies in secular and neutral spaces. It's hard for single people in any space to couple up. I have hung out with many single people in many different contexts, and it seems universally apparent that those who are looking for mature, long-term relationships are having a very hard time finding it. One reason for Point #4 is that there are a lot of immature singles out there, combined with a lot of picky singles. Immaturity and pickiness seem to both be a product of our consumerist culture. Many single men and women aren't going to church to get coupled, but rather because their life has hit a low spot, and they need Jesus. They are looking to get fed and connected with God. They have some healing and growing to do. Most of the young Christians that are mature, confident, stable, and successful have already coupled up outside of church. They start going to church in order to add to the stability, or raise their kids in church. The mature, confident, stable, and successful young singles are likely not in church, but rather out and about being mature, confident, stable, and successful in the world.
Meet Christian singles
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Just curious where are Christians meeting life partners. I’ve 33 (F) prayed for God to allow me to find comfort in my singleness and to help me to not idolize a partner. I spent so much time alone and this has allowed me to grow so much In my faith over the last 8 months. my But I do wonder where I will meet a life partner. I attend church regularly but it’s mainly older folks and their children. I guess it’s just a sort of curiosity tbh I would love to hear some love stories on how others have met their God ordained person.
Top Comment: I met my husband in college. I saw an infographic recently that less than one percent of couples meet that way these days. Online dating is by far the majority of how people meet. Meeting in college like I did is more unusual than online dating used to be when it came out. :)
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Top Comment: A few reasons I don't like being single (I don't call it an affliction though): I'm a guy, sex drive and hormones exist. Resisting the effects while single is often brutal in an increasingly hypersexualized world. I think I would want to be a father someday. Can't happen unless I get married. As most of my similarly-aged friends are now married, they naturally focus their attention on their spouse, meaning that I don't get to spend as much time with them. Most of the time it's fine, sometimes it hurts when I don't want to be by myself. I have a chronic medical condition that one day might require me to have significant surgery someday. If that happens, I would need someone to basically live with me for several weeks to assist me as I recover. I currently live alone. I sometimes wonder what would happen to me if that were to come to pass. Might not be so much of an issue if I were married. I try to focus my time on serving, going to the gym, hosting small groups, and my (many) hobbies, but sometimes the pain of feeling romantically unwanted still hits. For some people it's simply a core desire of their heart and having it remain unfulfilled is painful. Doesn't always mean it's an idol, just means that reality is hard to live with sometimes.
Where do single Christian’s meet besides church? Young newly married people-where did you meet your spouse?!
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This is the closest thing to social media I have and I do not want to do any sort of online dating. I like to go to the early service at my church but it’s mainly seniors. Soo maybe I’ll check out the later services. I’m not going to church to meet a dude and obviously gotta just trust God but where are the single Christian’s meeting each other? My church doesn’t have any singles group or anything..I’m almost 33. There are a lot of women that sit alone at church...soo where are all the men? Do they exist at this point? They gotta right?? 🤣🤣🤣
Top Comment: I met my husband online. I know it's not for everyone, but as a tried and true introvert whose church had no single young men, it was pretty much my only option. Thankfully I met the best man anyone could ask for.
Why does it seem harder for Christian men to date compared to Christian women?
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I've noticed that in church, it's usually the Christian guys who are single, while most Christian women are already dating or in relationships. Interestingly, many of these women are dating men who aren’t part of the church. They’re often with guys they’ve met elsewhere—at another church, school, or work.
Am I the only one who’s noticed this, or is this a common trend? I'd love to hear your thoughts.
Top Comment: I’ve noticed this at my church and asked about it. A lot of the single girls (including me) found their husbands at different churches or through family and friends. They did say the single guys at our church were not their type. I don’t think it has anything to do with being nerdy, like one comment said. The main thing I noticed is a lack of social skills. Maybe it’s social anxiety or them being super shy, but it is very noticeable. I won’t say that’s the case with all of them. A few others that my husband and I had over for dinner had very interesting lists of what they wanted in a wife. So that was another reason I noticed. But on the flip side, a few single girls had interesting lists too. A few of my married friends were friends with their now husbands way before they started dating. I think we as a society and a church have disregarded the importance of friendships with the opposite sex without agenda.